No two relationships are the same. But now science is saying that practically all successful couples have one simple thing in common. And the answer isn’t remotely sexual!
The solution to making a romantic relationship stronger has nothing to do with looks, money or anything else so vain.
In fact, it’s about sharing the same state of mind.
Many academic studies have shown that couples who make fun of each other on a regular basis have better relationships.
It sounds weird. Aren’t couples who make fun of each other sort of toxic? After all, constant mockery in the workplace would drive most people to new jobs! So wouldn’t the same happen in a relationship?
But when you think about it, it becomes much more rational.
Humor is an incredibly important part of our lives. And when it comes to relationships, there is no exception.
So if you approach a relationship with the mindset of “it’s ok to make fun of my partner, and it’s ok for him or her to make fun of me,” then things will flourish.
Of course, making fun of your partner in a way that they will find amusing and not terribly insulting is always a balancing act.
So maybe the solution isn’t that easy after all. It all depends on the person.
And of course, the jokes have to go both ways. If one person makes fun of the other constantly, but won’t accept a joke at their own expense, then that’s a major problem!
In fact, if one person is constantly making fun of the other and using the excuse “it’s only a joke,” then that’s a very strong warning sign. Jeffrey Hall, the person who conducted all of the humor and relationship studies, says:
“Having an aggressive sense of humor is a bad sign for the relationship in general, but it is worse if the style of humor is used in the relationship.”
But there is a happy balance to be found for many couples.
And thanks to the scientific studies, couples everywhere can now apply this mutual mockery with better results than ever.
The studies took place at University of Kansas. Over 15,000 people took part in them over the course of 30 years.
They proved that humor in a relationship is not just important but essential in many cases.
But it’s not enough to partner with someone who just has a sense of humor. Your ideal partner needs to have a sense of humor that’s very similar to yours.
And this is how making fun of each other, in the right way, thrives. When two people are able to make jokes about each other that both will appreciate, because they have the same sense of humor, then they will be able to flourish together.
In these scenarios, it’s ok if sometimes one partner goes a little over the mark. As they both generally share the same sense of humor, one partner will forgive the other and understand why they were making a joke that went a little over the line. That means that it’s easier to forgive and forget.
Of course, this can be tricky to work out when you first start dating a potential partner.
You can’t just start making fun of the other person as soon as you meet them. They’ll think that you’re a freak.
Instead, you have to see if your sense of humor clicks with the other person before making fun of them. That’s a time-consuming process, but it’s worth it to find “the one!”
The key thing to remember is that when looking for Mr. or Mrs. Right, you need to place humor at the center of your search!
Of course, you’ll have your own set of priorities, but a sense of humor that matches yours and which lets you make fun of each other in a healthy way is essential!
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